I’d like to visit the action of blame. After many years of my own personal journey to know myself, I’ve just recently seen the depth of where and how I have blamed something or someone outside of myself in order to take away my pain, anger, resentment, upset, frustration.
Somehow the lights just went on, showing me how the behavior of blame never is the solution to the problem.
Here’s a quote from Wayne Dyer that I think nails it!
“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him/her, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him/her, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.”
Through conscious connecting the breath, the focus of attention is guided into the body. As the breath unfolds we meet all the “folds” that are in our way. You could say that the “folds” are the blockages in the body-mind.
Focusing on our breathing helps us not to identify with what we are feeling and/or thinking, so that we don’t have to drown in our feelings. We become able to breathe continuously whatever we think or feel and thus centre ourselves in “the here and now”.
We begin to notice that we are not our feelings and that there is something in us that’s “bigger” than all of our drama. We are enabled to observe what’s happening from an aware ego position and to feel enough safety, in which we can integrate our past hurts and pains. We stop feeling like victims.
There is a deep sense of peace the moment we can let go of our judgements. Deep inside us we know -in a nearly indescribable way- that we made a connection with our own true being. This is the process we call ecstasy when consciousness frees itself from limiting thoughts, judgements and convictions and we are no longer identified with them. We are able to “stand by” and perceive. Our bodies don’t lie. We can feel the truth. The blocked energy starts to flow freely again physically and mentally. New possibilities of choice occur. This process may happen very quietly or with a great sense of euphoria.
When energy is prevented from flowing, consciousness disappears. Where energy flows, consciousness steps in.
Tilke Platteel-Deur, Breathwork Practitioner
Peace if Fundamental
You can have love without peace
You can have clarity without peace
You can have compassion without peace
You can have wisdom without peace
But, instrinsic to peace is love, clarity, compassion and wisdom.
These qualities of our true Nature can arise naturally from peace itself.
And then they are pure, untainted.
Peace is fundamental to all of them.
Written by Kris